Forgiveness starts from within. It may take 100 times before it starts to get easier or for you to feel like you mean it – sometimes it only takes once. Either way, you don’t have to wait until someone apologizes for you to forgive them. Forgiveness starts your own healing. There may be times that you don’t actually get an apology, that alone can be hard to overcome but even so, you are given a choice. A choice to forgive; to heal your own heart and to be set free.
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.'” – Matthew 18:21-22
This parable goes on to tell about the servant who was in debt to his master. His master demanded that the servant sell everything he had to repay his debt but he begged his master for more time and to be patient – that he would repay his debt. The master took pity on him and canceled his debt and set him free (v. 27).
After this, the servant went and found one of his fellow friends who owed him a debt – he demanded repayment – his friend begged for more time but the man refused to show mercy and instead, sent his friend to prison until the debt could be repaid…
How many times have we gone through life this same way? Personally, I know that I have many times. Feeling as though enough is enough and I don’t want to hurt anymore or be angered so I’ll walk away with the thought that I’ve tried, it’s no longer my problem, it’s on them. How terrible is that? Even typing that out makes me cringe. Maybe you’re all perfect and don’t have these flaws but I have learned that with forgiveness comes freedom. There is no longer a need to harbor unforgiveness.
Maybe you are like me and do have such flaws with forgiveness; whether it be offering it or asking for it. Maybe you are sitting there thinking, “No, absolutely not. I can’t. What was done cannot be undone.” I promise you that your own healing is within that offer (or request) of forgiveness. And you don’t have to do this alone. A little supernatural help can go a long way! Let’s humble ourselves and ask God for His courage and His strength.
There will be times that we cannot offer forgiveness in person – forgive anyway. In offering forgiveness, this allows the opportunity for the Father to show grace to all His children. God is always forgiving our own mistakes and showering us with grace; we should be willing to offer that same grace to one another.
“When we learn how to ask for forgiveness along with offering forgiveness, we are then allowing ourselves the opportunity for growth and healing”
Let’s dig deep. Are you seeking forgiveness; do you need to? Are you offering forgiveness; do you need to? Today, I urge you to let go and let God do. Let’s humble ourselves into freedom with forgiveness – it’s time to let go of all that we may be harboring.
Thank you for always providing; for being our way maker. Continue to guide us with your Holy Spirit. Forgive us of anything known and bring light to what is unknown that is separating us from your glory. Provide us with the courage to let go of all that we may be harboring. We ask for your strength and your wisdom to help us discern which paths you have laid before us. In your name, I pray – Amen.
With Love in Christ,